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We know that you probably have some questions about how this whole thing works, so we've added some helpful links below to talk about everything from how to address your wedding invitations, when to order, printing style descriptions and more.  Still have questions? We'd love to help! Contact us.

Printing Styles - an overview of our different printing styles and what they mean

How to Address Wedding Invitations - guidelines for every situation

Timeline - when to order each item for your stationery suite

How to Word Wedding Invitations - options for every situation

How to Say "no kids allowed" Properly? - a list of "etiquette-approved" options

How to Word RSVP Cards - a break down of your options for each section

What to Include on Detail Insert Cards - a list of what's typically included

FAQ - answers to frequently asked questions about wedding stationery and our process

Our Process - a step by step guide of how this works

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PRINTING STYLES

Digital – This is our most commonly used printing method and it delivers high-resolution, flat prints on your choice of card stock. 
  
Letterpress – Developed in the 1400s and one of the most intricate printing processes, letterpress creates a debossed pattern that is indented into the surface of the paper.  This printing style requires high quality, cotton paper, allowing the graphics to create an impression in the paper, creating an elegant and unique result.
  
Foil Stamping – Quickly becoming one of the most popular printing methods of this generation, foil stamping uses real foil to add a true metallic shimmer to any image. Similar to letterpress, this process uses a heated metal plate to bond the foil with the paper. (Above photo shows rose gold foil stamp in monogram and names)

Thermography – This sophisticated style creates a raised effect by heating up the ink and powder so that it dries hard & glossy. Once it dries, it is slightly raised from the paper, making it three dimensional.

Embossing – An embossed pattern is a raised impression where no ink is applied. An image is pressed onto the paper from the back creating a beautiful effect on paper. This style is popular when doing crests, monograms or intricate borders on invitations. 


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HOW TO ADDRESS YOUR WEDDING INVITATIONS

You will quickly find that addressing your wedding invitations can be a bit tricky. We are here to help! See below for instructions and proper etiquette on addressing inner and outer envelopes for most every unique situation:

To a Married Couple

This is the most traditional form of addressing an invitation. You also have the option of including the wife’s first name if you’d like. 

To an Unmarried Couple Living Together

This is the same format at the married couple, but both names must be included. 

To a Divorced Female

The best practice is to address her as either Ms. or Mrs. and use her maiden name if she doesn’t still use her former husband’s.

To Families with Children {& children are invited}

Children can be included on the inner envelope by first name. If the girls are under 18, list them as “Miss”. Boys don’t require titles until they’re 18.

To Singles 18 and Older

Should you want to indicate that a guest is invited, you can write this on the inner envelope.

To a Widow

Typically, you would use the deceased husband’s last name and first name, but use your best judgment on what she would prefer.

To Persons with Distinguished Titles

If only one person in the couple has a distinguished title, the etiquette is to write his/her name first, followed by the partner’s name.If both have distinguished titles and the same last name, you can address them as “The Doctors LAST NAME”. If both are distinguished with different last names, you can list both titles and names on both envelopes.


TIMELINE

7-10 months before your wedding: order save the dates & thank you cards

6-8 months before your wedding: mail save the dates, order wedding invitations & rehearsal dinner invitations

6-8 weeks before your wedding: mail wedding invitations, order wedding day programs and reception items (place cards, table number, seating chart, menus, etc.) if you haven't already

5 weeks before your wedding: mail rehearsal dinner invitations, finalize wedding day programs and reception items


HOW TO WORD YOUR WEDDING INVITATIONS

Don't be intimidated by wedding invitation wording etiquette - the "rules" are actually much more straightforward than they seem. Whether the Bride's parents are hosting, your parents are divorced, or you and your fiance are hosting together - we've written out the proper casual and formal wording options for you below!

Keep mind that we like to live on the edge around here and know that some of these examples won't fit your exact style - we can change the wording however you'd like!

If you or your groom have divorced parents, remember these rules:

  1. Names are listed on separate lines without an “and” between them

  2. Mom always comes first.

  3. If the bride’s mother is not remarried, use “Ms.” followed by her first name and the last name she is currently using (maiden or still her married name).

Including the Bride's Last Name:

Traditionally, the bride only includes her first and middle name if her last name is the same as her parent's, but we thinks it's quite alright to include your last name as well if you'd like!


HOW TO SAY, NO KIDS ALLOWED, WITHOUT BEING MEAN ABOUT IT?

No problem! Although this can be tricky, there's a few different ways that you can successfully pull off an adults only wedding without offending anyone.

  1. Address your envelopes properly. You can refer to this section for more guidance on this, but the names that you list on the envelope tell the guests who's invited to the wedding. Even if they don't get this hint, it's a great place to start. 
  2. Put "We've reserved (blank) adult seats for you" on your RSVP card. This gives just one more hint that the wedding is kid-free without slapping them across the face with it. 
  3. Put "Adults Only Reception to Follow" on the invitation. This isn't clearly saying that kids aren't allowed at the ceremony, so it's the perfect way to tell guests that the reception is kid-free and a good addition even if both events are adults only. 
  4. Fill in the name line on each RSVP card with the exact names of people invited. This can take some time, but it's a pretty obvious way to tell them who is included on the invite. 

HOW TO WORD RSVP CARDS

Like most things, RSVP card wording can be completely custom to your type of event! For example, if you're going for a more formal occasion, you will probably stick with the traditional "happily accepts" and "regretfully declines", compared to if you're having a playful destination wedding your wording could be something like, "yeah, mon!". 

1. Guest Count

If you need to make it clear how many people are invited (usually if you have really limited seating or you’re worried that big families will assume all are invited, etc.) you can put a section at the top that says, “We’ve reserved (blank) seats in your honor”, and you would fill in that blank before you send it.

We can also add a line that says “(blank) out of (blank) attending”. This can be in addition to the aforementioned portion or by itself and you would just need to fill out the second blank.

Or, we can just have a general “(blank) Number Attending” section. 

2. Call to action

Another thing to include on your RSVP card is an RSVP by date. This can be different depending on when you need final head counts for other vendors, but a typical rule of thumb is the request the RSVP cards back within 2-3 weeks before your wedding day. Below are some wording examples:

The Favor of Your Reply is Requested by June First
Kindly Let Us Know By 06.01.2017
RSVP By 05/01/2014
Please Reply By 06.01.2107
Kindly Reply by June First
Reply by 06.01.2017
Please Respond By June First
RSVP by June 1st or forever hold your peace
RSVP by June 1st or will use at least 4 forms of communication to hassle you

3. Names

Of course you'll need to know who it is that's filling out this RSVP card so it's important to put a space for them to write their names. Traditionally, you include a simple "(M)" and a line next to it for people to write "Mr., Miss, Mrs., etc." followed by their name. Alternately, you can just put "Name(s)": for people to list out who's attending or not attending.

4. Responses

We've listed a few different wording options for the response phrases as ideas below, but keep in mind that this can be whatever fits YOU best!

Traditional

Accepts with Pleasure
Declines with Regret

Delighted to Attend
Regretfully Cannot Join You

Happily Accepts
Regretfully Declines

Graciously Accepts
Sadly Declines

Will Attend
Unable to Attend

Happily Accepts (or you can use "Joyfully Accepts")
Apologetically Declines

 

Non-Traditional

Ready to eat, drink, and see you get married!
Will toast to you from afar

Deal me in!
Sitting this one out

Can’t Wait!
Sorry, Wish I Could Be There

We Will See You There!
Sorry To Miss Out

Let the Good Times Roll!
You’re Going to Have to Carry On Without Me

Bags Packed, Ready to Go!
Hate to Say Can’t Make It

Excited to Celebrate with You!
Sad to Miss All Fun

Yes, the party don’t start 'til I walk in!
No, party on without me

Yes, let’s live it up
No, and I’ll forever regret this decision

Will be there, and will not be square
Will not be there, and therefore am square

Heck yes!
Shoot, can't make it.

Yes, let’s live it up
No, and I’ll forever regret this decision

Will be there, and will not be square
Will not be there, and therefore am square

Yeah, mon!
No, and I'll forever regret this decision.

Can't wait!
Can't come!

Looking forward to dining, dancing, and celebrating
Have to miss the fun

Wouldn't miss it!
Have fun without us.

Yay or Nay

Wouldn’t Miss It For the World
The World is Not Enough

Let’s Get Rowdy!
Show Must Go On Without Me

Aw, Yeah! Drinks on Me!
I’ll Be There In Spirit

Free booze? Yes, please.
In a nutshell…I’m lame.

Only if you’ll be playing “Forever” by Chris Brown
Not even “Call Me Maybe” will entice me

Replace the expected line “accepts with pleasure,” with:

  • Two words … free booze.
  • I’ll be there with bells on.
  • Yes, I am ready to attack the dance floor.

“Declines with regret,” can be replaced with:

  • Will cheers from afar.
  • No, and I’ll forever regret this decision.
  • Will be there in spirit

4. Entrée selection

This section will depend on what you’re serving at the reception. If you’re opting for a buffet, chances are you can leave this section off altogether. If you have multiple entrée options, list the options, and ask your guests to tally the entrée preferences for their party and place a number next to each entrée option. 

You can also include a line for dietary restrictions to let you know of any food allergies or dietary preferences (i.e. vegetarian).

5. Salutation

If you'd like, you can include a phrase at the bottom that says something like, "Look forward to celebrating with you!"

WHAT TO INCLUDE ON YOUR DETAIL INSERT CARDS

It's very common to have a detail insert card that covers all of the miscellaneous details of your wedding that you want your guest to know so that everything is in one place. This card is specific to YOUR particular event, so no two cards will be the same and there's essentially no rules. Here's some things that are typically included:

  1. Accommodations
    • Hotel(s) name, address, phone number, room block deadline, hotel contact if there is one, etc.
  2. Directions 
    • from hotel to venue and/or to venue from major highway intersection and/or from ceremony site to reception venue\
    • can also include custom map
  3. Registry
    • link if registry is online or list of store names
  4. Wedding website
  5. Reception info
    • If reception is at a separate location from the ceremony it's very important to include the name & address of this location
  6. Event specific details
    • This is where you can include any random information you have for your guests (i.e. valet parking at venue, shuttle service to and from hotel and venue, dress code (this can also be on invitation), etc.